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Oregon Homeschoolers' Reunion - August 2008
This is a reunion for homeschoolers who are living post "schooling" lives. Our goal is for homeschoolers, unschoolers, etc, to meet for a 10-year type reunion and see what other people in their situation are doing. The focus is on people who feel like they are now living adult lives: graduated college, living away from home, working full time, or any thing that makes you feel that you are grown up. For more information, visit http://www.oregonchautauqua.org/reunion/

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H-E-L-P!

Your Trusty Homeschool Emergency Kit - Absolutely Free! No Strings! Right Here on These Pages!

After months of doubt and inner turmoil, you decide that today is the day. You will homeschool, starting now. You stop by the school to withdraw your children. You drive home, all the while confidently assuring your children that you will all have a blast learning together at home.

Your cool demeanor reassures your children. However, your children cannot hear your knees knocking nor can they feel the swarm of butterflies tying your insides in knots. They cannot hear your inner voice wailing, "Am I nuts to think I can homeschool? Can I really do this? What if we don´t cover the right stuff? I have no idea what to do first!!! What have I done? Will I ruin my children for life?"

H-E-L-P! Yes, it probably does feels like an emergency - but luckily, no one is actually bleeding, and knowledge has a way of staying put. It is not an emergency but a change of plan - you are launching a new lifestyle. And a wonderful adventure the homeschooling lifestyle is, too! It is natural to be anxious, but there is no need to panic. BUT WHERE TO BEGIN?

Follow the suggestions that follow in this Trusty Homeschool Emergency Kit, below, to a gentle and fun beginning. Although we recommend that you read these items in the suggested order, some wise souls begin with Item 11! Just trust yourself, take the leap, and discover your wings.

First, discover that you really can relax and enjoy the process of learning with your children. Next, you´ll read up on how other people have homeschooled to get ideas of what might work for you. You´ll want to connect with other homeschoolers in real life, and maybe on the Internet.



While you begin to plan your first steps, you soon realize that planning and adapting will be an ongoing process throughout your homeschooling career. Learning how to comply with the homeschooling law in your state is not as hard as it seems.



As you get even more comfortable, you´ll learn how to cooperate with other homeschoolers for the greatest advantage. Finding ways to conserve spending will help the family budget, and one way to do that is to build your homeschooling experiences around family interests.



You´ll find some ways to evaluate your children´s progress and realign your plans regularly to meet your family´s learning needs. Socialization won´t be a problem as you find homeschooling friends. Finally, you are going to remember how joyous learning can be and that fun is a key element for homeschooling success. Let´s get started.




Item 1. Relax.


There are no educational emergencies! So pour yourself a cup of tea and take heart in some basic truths. First, realize that the fundamentals of homeschooling success are already well-established in your family. You´ve been responsible for providing for all of your child´s best interests except academics since birth. The basic structure of organization and family life are well-established.



Second, you´ve got what it takes for success. You won´t need to expand your scope that much. You already know how to play and talk with your children. You´ve been helping them explore the world since day one. You already guide them as they move through developmental stages and prepare for the next phase of their lives.



Third, , a day without doing math problems is not necessarily a day wasted. You have time to think this through and to make it work. Now take a deep breath and continue when ready.



Begin with some family activities to break up entrenched school-ish habits that can derail the homeschooling adventure. Your children will benefit the most from this approach and it gives you even more time to get your act together.



Some families take a family trip when they begin to homeschool to break up entrenched negative patterns children may have about learning. Consider that option carefully. If you can´t sail the Caribbean, can´t even take a weekend trip to Grandma´s house, then how about a picnic at the park?



Take day trips a visit your favorite local sights or take nature walks. If it rains on your outdoor parade, picnic under the dining room table and play games all afternoon. Stay home and catch up on hobbies.



If you begin to homeschool at the beginning of the regular school session, find out whether a local homeschooling group offers a “not-back-to-school’ special event, such as a Homeschool Amusement Park Day, on the first day of school. If you don´t find an event that works for you, plan your own outing for that day. After all, you are beginning a new era!

 

Wanna study chocolate? You can read about chocolate, eat chocolate, buy chocolate, cook with chocolate, learn about growing cacao trees, watch movies about chocolate, fingerpaint with chocolate pudding, and even crave chocolate! You can learn to spell Hershey, Cadbury, Nestle, Dove, and even Ghirardelli. But until you stand in the candy factory smelling the smells, hearing the sounds of machinery, and watching the candy bunnies and sugary hearts find their way into pretty boxes, do you really know chocolate?

 

Field trips are an up close and personal introduction to new subjects, new connections, new ideas, and new ways of looking at the world. In addition, children learn so much that is incidental to the intent of the trip.

Suppose that, on a trip to a fish hatchery, one of your children becomes fascinated as she listens to members of a visiting tour group speak Japanese among themselves. Perhaps on that same trip your youngest spends most of his time pocketing pretty bits of gravel in the parking lot. Could you have guessed that a desire to learn Japanese or to study geology could be launched at a fish hatchery?

The side-learning on field trips is so rich that it makes good learning sense to plan trips frequently. Trips can probe general or specific kinds of questions, and may deepen current studies. Fundamentals of Homeschooling, p. 269 .





Item 2. Read.


 While you help your kids explore their natural interests, parents should spend time learning about their own latest natural interest, homeschooling! Fundamentals of Homeschooling: Notes on Successful Family Living is earning a reputation as a comprehensive and reader-friendly trove of information that will help you find your homeschooling rhythm.



Fundamentals includes an overview of quality resources and an extensive bibliography of well-regarded homeschooling books. Here is an excerpt:

 

Reading one book (even this one!) cannot sustain a homeschooling family forever. Reading from the growing body of work on homeschooling will go far to build your homeschooling confidence and know-how. The body of homeschooling literature written for homeschooling parents is exploding. How will you choose?

 

The [resource] lists that follow are bibliographies of books that I have referred to myself over the years. Some I have read word by word, lingering over ideas that inspire me, while others I have skimmed for tips of general usefulness. Some of the most popular homeschooling magazines are [also] reviewed below. It is easy to stay current with homeschooling practice and trends when you subscribe to one or two favorite periodicals.Fundamentals of Homeschooling, p. 392



Borrow or buy as many how-to homeschooling books as you can find. A favorite book or a current issue of a national homeschooling magazine tucked into your tote bag will be there for you to read while your children are at swimming or playing soccer.


 


If you aren´t sure which ones will suit you best, order sample copies of several magazines. A brief summary of the most popular magazines can be found in Fundamentals of Homeschooling. My personal favorite is Home Education Magazine where my column, News & Commentary , is published.



As for homeschooling books, some of the best are the classics that have lasted for a few years, my books notwithstanding. [blush] So, repeat after me: “The library is my friend.’ So is the librarian, as are the helpful folks at your neighborhood bookstore. Many bookstores offer discounts to homeschoolers, so be sure to ask. Some local support groups also maintain a library of homeschooling books.



Although less portable, web browsing is another good way to explore the vast amount of information available. A couple of outstanding and reliable web sources include A2Z´s Home´s Cool website and HEM´s website. Both are actively maintained and updated and will help you survey the homeschooling literature that is available.



If you have special educational concerns (TAG, LD, ADD, autism, or other special needs), you should also seek out information specific to your child´s individual needs. Online, you can do a simple search on homeschooling OR homeschool OR homeschooler AND whatever your specific concern is and you´ll find plenty of resources to explore.






Item 3. Connect!


Next you´ll want to find some homeschoolers to hang out with. That gives your children a chance to get to know other homeschoolers while you yourself get acquainted and ask all those questions that burn in your mind. Talk to both new and experienced homeschooling families.



Ask “stupid’ questions . Find out what they do and what they like, and what mistakes they think you should avoid. Support groups often have field trips , park days, or other activity-based events that make it very easy to connect.

 

Although I generally recommend single issue statewide groups, some families are more comfortable with a group that incorporates other issues, such as a preferred religious perspective, ethnicity, or educational approach. In some states — unfortunately, not all of them — statewide groups of every stripe work cordially and cooperatively for the benefit of all homeschooling families. Some families join several groups to get differing viewpoints.

 

Joining a group or two cannot be over-emphasized…When I recovered from burnout and continued to homeschool, there were still no compatible groups in my state, so I helped create one. If I can do it, so can you. Fundamentals of Homeschooling, p. 389



One sure-fire way to find homeschooling groups is to ask your librarian. Homeschooling groups have supplied local libraries with information since day one. Most areas have several groups to choose from, so contact several and attend a couple of events to find out the group´s focus and compatibility. 

 

What about homeschooling events such as conferences, workshops, camp-outs, and curriculum fairs? Many folks love to attend these and find them to be great networking opportunities. Events are an exciting way to connect with homeschooling leaders, to get the latest information, to find materials and resources, and to meet new people.

 

You may want to seek out conferences that include children´s events, or that are at least child-friendly, so you can attend as a family. Conferences are sponsored by many statewide organizations, some national organizations, and an occasional local organization. You´ll find that some magazines, correspondence schools, and curriculum suppliers sponsor homeschooling conferences as well.

 

Local groups are more likely to sponsor workshops, swap meets, retreats, “not-back-to-school’ events, camp-outs and other low-key events. Check them all out. Fundamentals of Homeschooling, p. 388

 



One part of connecting might be joining an online support list. You´ll find a support list to meet every need, from a local field trip announcement list to a an unschooling list to a national political debate list, and every spot between. Most inclusive state groups can help you find a list or two, where you can meet other people who have their own favorite lists.



To find a selection of statewide groups, try this search string with your favorite search engine: Your State AND homeschool OR homeschooling OR homeschooler OR “home education.’ Be sure to scroll through all the listings - chances are you´ll find a group in your region listed. When you have found a couple of organizations that look like they might be compatible, be sure to ask if there is an online mailing list you can join.






Item 4. Plan.


Some families plan together from the beginning and set up regular family meetings. In others, one or both parents may do the planning. Will you be highly structured, unschooled, or somewhere in between? Perhaps you will experiment with several approaches before finding the best fit.



 Some of your reading will appeal to you and other material will seem impossible. That is perfectly natural — already you are making choices about what you will or will not do. You are finding your homeschooling style . Where will you find your match? Will you choose a child-specific developmental style and follow your child´s interests, or will you opt for a curriculum-based style and follow a prepared plan?



Remember, it doesn´t matter if what you like is the exact opposite of the recommendations of your admired friend who has successfully homeschooled for years. Some ideas will work better than others because of your natural teaching and learning style, as well as your children´s learning styles.



To find out more about which styles and approaches will work best for your family, hit the books! Read homeschooling books, magazines, and web sites. You will learn more about your homeschooling style, methods, and content as you read. No style or approach will be a perfect match - there are probably as many styles of successful homeschooling as there are individuals and families!



Observe your children. Take into consideration their learning styles, personalities, ages, and interests. Consider the lifestyle you and your family now live and how you might modify it. Think about the routines that are important to you and your spouse as a couple.



Meet other homeschooling families to see real life homeschooling. If none live in your neighborhood, sign up for a workshop, conference, or other even with a local support group. Don´t forget to prepare for any negative reactions your family and friends may have to this decision.



Even though you´ll try to consider your homeschooling style, your personal style, and your children´s learning styles and interests before you purchase materials, an important part of your plan should the include the flexibility to change your plan. Since there is no perfect “one size fits all’ type of homeschooling, expect that the first approach you try out may not fit your family. Be prepared to nip and tuck or toss the plan out and try another.



Finally, do watch for signs of burnout.

 

Evaluate regularly and change directions as needed. Your students will generally let you know if your plan is working. Are your children usually happy, busy, engaged, enthusiastic, and challenged, whether at play or at work? It´s working, folks!

 

Are they sullen, squabbling, always bored, negative, television-addicted, or combative? They might be telling you that something is amiss. Then it´s time for Detective Dad or Mom to help the child find direction.

 

So try something new! Don´t worry about disrupting the children´s learning processes with a midyear change of program or curriculum. Life is full of change, and change always provides opportunities for growth and learning. They will adapt as they always do.

 

Just keep tweaking the plan, the schedule, the style, and the materials until your students are so busily engaged learning that they forget to squabble.

 

When you find that the daily routine is fun and satisfying, you are there. You have found a workable homeschooling style — so relax and enjoy the ride.Fundamentals of Homeschooling, pp. 161-162



Item 5. Comply with your state´s requirements.


 Homeschooling laws in the fifty United States and Territories vary widely. Some states have minimal or no regulation, while others burden parents with difficult regulations. Homeschooling is legal in every state, and that the best source of information about homeschooling in your state is your statewide homeschooling group.

 

You may be surprised to learn that the least helpful place to turn for homeschooling information is your local school. But think about it — you wouldn´t usually choose to see a psychiatrist for a broken arm, would you? No, you would choose the specialist that suits the job.

 

School staff are up to their eyeballs in the complicated business of public schooling — it is unreasonable to expect them to have the latest homeschooling information. The chance of being inadvertently misinformed by overworked staff is great, so give those hard-working folks a break.

 

Skip the trip to the local school office. The specialist that suits the job is an experienced homeschooling parent. Drop by your library or plop down in front of your computer. The Internet, along with a good library, can be a homeschooling parent´s best friend. Spend an hour with a web site such as

 

Home Education Magazine´s http://www.homeedmag.com/wlcm_groups.html

National Home Education Network´s website www.nhen.org

American Homeschool Association www.aha.org

A2Z Home´s Cool www.gomilpitas.com/homeschooling/

At sites such as these, you can do a simple search for your state´s homeschooling organizations or basic legal information. Fundamentals of Homeschooling, pp. 385-386



Or try this search string with your favorite search engine: Your State AND homeschool OR homeschooling OR homeschooler OR “home education.’ Be sure to scroll through all the listings - chances are good that you´ll find a compatible group in your region. 



You can usually get a copy of your state´s law and regulations at your local or state support group´s website.



Some people are a bit intimidated when the first thing a veteran homeschooler tells them is to get a copy of the state law and read it for themselves. Instead of being overwhelmed, why not think of this task as a lesson in homeschooling politics and law?


 


Here is an inside tip: Have a copy of that law in your hand when you call a local homeschooling support group to guide you through the nuances of compliance.



Every veteran homeschooler you contact will be impressed! Whether you understand the law or not, whoever you talk to will realize that you recognize how precious their time is. You will get serious and useful help in navigating the homeschooling waters in your community!





Item 6. Cooperate.



Cooperatives are wonderful ways to extend your homeschooling dollar as well as your precious time. Just be sure to take the time to find a cooperative situation that meets your needs and those of your children. You´ll want to start looking for a group you feel compatible with as soon as you can. Some cooperatives may be closed to new members shortly after the beginning of a school year. It may be harder to start a co-op in the middle of the year, although cooperatives seem to fill whenever they are offered.



Learning clubs* are a great example of successful cooperation among homeschooling families.

•      Clubs are usually sponsored by families who want to meet unique needs.

•   The desire to create clubs may arise from the children.

•   Parent-formed clubs are common; many young people have formed successful clubs as well.

•   Leadership is typically voluntary and unpaid.

•   Clubs tend to develop around interactive and participatory activities.

•   Clubs usually have no dues or cost requirements beyond expenses.

•   Attendance is optional. Clubs that thrive are duplicated by other groups. Those that are poorly managed or that do not meet the learning needs of the members usually die from lack of interest.

•   Clubs usually form among families who are already linked together in some way — a support group, an e-mail loop, a neighborhood, a church group, or a common interest. A newly formed club may be announced through state or local support group newsletters, e-mail loops, and church, library, or community bulletin boards.

•   Clubs may limit membership in some way, such as setting a maximum number of students or a final enrollment date. A Spanish Club may want a larger group to defray the cost of paying a native-speaking teacher. A group planning to study microscopic pond life may be limited by the number of microscopes available. Limits may even be set according to the capacity of people´s living rooms. Theme clubs (described below) seem to work best with about eight members. Clubs such as Park Days, Swim Days, and Skating Days are typically open to all. The more, the merrier.

•   Successful clubs usually admit participants based on interests, not age. Membership guidelines, when given, are broad categories: all, preschool, six to ten, teens, moms, boys, girls, and so on.

•   Clubs may be very casual (occasional play days, field trips, or craft projects) or quite formal (study traditional school subjects from a traditional curriculum on a regular schedule).

•   Even the best clubs have a limited life. Only rarely will a group continue to function despite the coming and going of students, and even the organizers. Fundamentals of Homeschooling p. 280.



If you´ve been reading along, you already know that a great place to get connected is through your local, state, and national newsletters and e-mail groups.

You will find these websites helpful in locating those sources:

Home Education Magazine

National Home Education Network

A2Z Home´s Cool

And, if you just can´t find another homeschooler in your local community, post a notice at the local grocery or library, and wait until you are found by the next person.




Item 7. Conserve your spending.


While the $600-$1500/year packaged curriculum your friend raves about may seem “safe,’ it can hamstring your homeschooling budget. On the other hand, the “library card and a math book’ model of homeschooling, while it may fit the budget better, might be a bit too relaxed a model for your first year. Before you take the plunge and buy some very expensive textbooks or other curriculum, though, seek suggestions for how to choose a textbook or none at all.

 

You may well wonder what reasons parents cite for looking beyond these traditional school materials. One common reason is that textbooks are designed for same-age group or classroom use, making textbooks somewhat difficult to incorporate into home life, where children of different ages learn together.

 

Some parents find that the tedium of a textbook leads their student to dislike a subject he previously enjoyed. Textbooks are often survey courses, jammed with facts, making it unlikely that the gripping story of, say, the Revolutionary War, can be rendered within the covers of one book that tries to cover all of United States history.

 

Textbook series can be repetitious and, if used for several years in a row, students can become exceedingly bored.

 

Another problem with a series of textbooks is the challenge of maintaining a consistent quality of instruction at each level. Other texts are so full of errors they are laughable.

 

Topics that are poorly taught in the first book of a series are generally poorly taught year after year. How I´ve tried to forget those ghastly new math books, books that went on, and on, and on, and...

 

Textbooks are rarely the best choice for children who are primarily nonvisual learners. Even though some textbook authors try to accommodate a variety of learning styles, textbooks are still, after all, predominantly text. Fundamentals of Homeschooling, pp. 377-378.



Many parents discover that a modified apprenticeship or mentorship can provide excellent educational opportunities at minimal expense.

 

Good apprenticeships are win-win-win-win arrangements: students thrive when they learn with adults; knowledgeable adults enjoy sharing knowledge and benefit from an extra pair of hands; parents know their student´s learning is expanding; the community enjoys long-term benefits when young people feel like they belong.

 

Dentists´ offices, veterinarians´ offices, horse stables, and woodworking shops are examples of businesses that have created successful apprenticeships specifically for homeschooled students.

 

Not a single one of those apprenticeships was advertised in the local newspaper or the telephone book. In fact, these apprenticeships didn´t even exist until enterprising parents or students reached out and asked.Fundamentals of Homeschooling, p. 289. .



Research, research, research! Do be prepared to make some purchasing and planning errors. More than once, I bought an item that I loved — I just forgot to check with my children to see if they would love it too!





Item 8. Make Friends in the Homeschooling Community.


There are many ways to connect. A favorite is to participate in or sponsor a Learning clubs*.

 

Many clubs fall into one of these three categories.

Theme or subject clubs are very popular. Math, literature, writing, cooking, sewing, horses, computers, space, dogs, collections, foreign language, religious study, magazine subscriptions, science, history, geography, sports, board and card games, and community service are examples you can choose from. Pick your topic and form a club.

 

Community service clubs. These may be local or associated with national groups such as 4-H, Boy Scouts, Girl Scouts, or Campfire.

 

Social clubs. Sometimes it is fun to get together and hang out, have a dance, go skating, or otherwise celebrate the events of our lives. Roller skating parties, swim parties, age group clubs, girl clubs, Moms´ (or Dads´) Night Out, birthday clubs, dance clubs, and holiday preparation groups are a few examples. Social club gatherings may spawn smaller interest-based theme and service clubs. Fundamentals of Homeschooling, p. 283. .



Connecting with the homeschooling community is not a cure-all for what ails society, but it can afford some peace of mind. Consider.

 

Homeschooled students generally have less time to learn or practice dangerous behaviors because there are usually too many adults around. They are busy. They have increased their social skills from an early age. Not separated by same-age groupings, they have a chance to see where they´ve been and where they are headed as they continue to grow up.

 

Of course homeschooled children do not wear halos. Homeschooled students may indeed explore some of the dangerous behaviors and undesirable activities of their peers.

 

However, the opportunities to practice and learn these behaviors are limited when they are busy swimming in the fish bowl of family, friends, and the community.

 

By the time homeschooled students have the freedom, time, and transportation to indulge in a darker side of adolescence, they have pretty much passed through the stage of interest and choose instead to occupy themselves with enjoying their todays and building their futures. Fundamentals of Homeschooling, p. 148. .







Item 9. Follow interests, yours and your children´s.



If you have always wanted to learn more about French Renaissance hairstyles, now is your chance! Or maybe you want to take up weight lifting. Get yourself and the kids some appropriate equipment and resource books and get started.



Maybe you can hire a trainer or go to a gym. Could you trade piano lessons for weight training? The only limit is your interests and imagination!



And look at some of the ways families are following interests together through support groups and Learning clubs* -

•   “Chow and Chekhov.’ For more than six years, families have gathered one Friday evening a month in each other´s homes for a potluck meal. A theme for the food is picked each month by the hosting family — green food, dessert night, pizza toppings, foreign food, etc. After the meal, starting with the youngest child and moving by age to the oldest, everyone takes a turn to talk about their favorite book. Imagine a tiny child telling everyone — tots, teens, and adults — their two special sentences about Hop on Pop! while everyone in the room listens respectfully! When younger children are finished, they drift off to play elsewhere while the rest of the group moves to more complex literature. The founders of this popular event no longer attend. This is one club that took on a life of its own!

•   Little House on the Prairie. This early group developed around the shared love of the Laura Ingalls Wilder books. The families read the books at home and meet for dramatic play, field trips, and activities with pioneer themes. Soap- and candle-making, watching a farrier shoe a pony, historical field trips, dramatic play, and socializing are typical activities. Other literature themes that lend themselves to similar clubs include the King Arthur legends, the Chronicles of Narnia, Anne of Green Gables, Jane Austen´s books, the Boxcar Children, and the Harry Potter Series. Supplemental craft and resource books that accompany some popular series, if available, are a boon to your club.

•   Latin Club. This club included six families with students aged 9-17. They met twice a month. Each family purchased the same Latin textbook, as all group members were beginning students. One chapter was covered each meeting. Many fun and enriching activities were organized, such as a toga party, crossword puzzles, movies, preparing food, reading myths, and so on. All ages learned together.

•  Destination Imagination, (formerly Odyssey of the Mind). This international organization offers an annual creative problem-solving competition. Teams of five to seven children select a problem in the fall and develop their solution for a presentation in the spring. Homeschooling groups have participated successfully in these competitions. Fundamentals of Homeschooling, pp. 284-285. .

 

 


Item 10. Evaluate -

— at least every month or two until you get the hang of homeschooling. You´ll have some ups and down for certain. Children who have attended school often take a while to adjust to a homeschooling lifestyle — so do their parents.

 

You are probably going to make some mistakes, and you may need to start over once, twice, or more. Learn what you can from your flubs, apologize as needed, then adapt your plans and goals and get on with family learning. Whatever you do, though, don´t put off starting until you think you can get it right. If you have even a glimmer of how to begin, then begin. Make adjustments as you go. That is what successful homeschooling families do.

 

Over-scheduling — even the very best activities — can stress the entire family.

 

Paring down can be a challenge if you have scheduled too much. Some families have handled this problem and have gained an exquisite home peace by reducing or eliminating television from the home. Limits can be set on other entertainment, including computer games, movies, social time. Housework can be streamlined. Activities can be cut back.

 

Students who want or need a busy schedule might contribute to the functioning of the household in some other way. For example, a teen who needs to be driven to soccer practice every day can help out with chores such as cooking, cleaning, or reading to a younger child.

 

Under-scheduling may result in bored students with too little to occupy their time.

 

One single mom who worked full time neatly sidestepped that danger by requiring each of her teens to participate in exactly two outside activities, not more and not less.

 

Two activities each week still allowed enough family and individual time with her children. She had assurance that they were involved and busy in activities, and the schedule remained manageable.

 

Her reasoning was a sound compromise: better to have a mom who is busy but not totally exhausted, than have to worry about two children who were sitting around bored while she was away at work. Fundamentals of Homeschooling, p. 178. .

 

And remember, homeschooling is a terrific lifestyle —

You´ll also want to have a plan for evaluating your child´s progress . While standardized testing may not be the best choice for your child, many states require regular testing of students. Given that fact, and the fact that the national climate is one of high stakes standardized testing and the pressure that goes along with that testing, I´d like to let you know that there are serious drawbacks to testing. There are, in fact -

 

Dehumanizing Side Effects of Testing

The following messages are the anti-learning and dehumanizing lessons that children may learn when they take standardized tests:

•   My worth can be summarized by a single mark on a paper.

•   Thinking is not valued; getting the ‘right´ answer is the only goal.

•   Someone else knows what I should know better than my parents or I do.

•   Learning is an absolute that can be measured.

•   My interests are not important enough to be measured.

•   The subject areas being evaluated on the test are the only things that are important to know.

•   The answer (to any question) is readily available, indisputable, and it's one of these four or five answers here; there's no need to look deeper or dwell on the question.

•   The purpose of learning is to get a high score. High test scores are the only purpose of testing.

•   If I score very well, I am better than other people who do not score as well.

•   Poor test scores mean that I am a failure. If I score poorly, there is nothing I can do to change it. Why try?

•   I haven't learned to read yet. I am not smart.

•   Since I must be tested once a year, so I can homeschool, my parents and I have to spend the rest of the year preparing.

•   The test was easy [hard]. [Public] [home] [private] school kids are dumber [smarter] than I.

•   The questions on the test are what is important. What I have been learning is not important.

•   I have to get a higher score next year to show that I am learning.

•   I am just a member of a herd that must be tested, without individual value.

Do you agree that standardized tests can be powerful teachers? ... Not only is a deaf ear turned to the drawbacks of testing, the stakes seem to be raised to a higher level with each passing year.

 

Until the national testing mania is reversed, many students will need to take tests in order to achieve their goals. These [following] suggestions may help parents minimize the negative effects of standardized testing for their students. Fundamentals of Homeschooling, pp. 240-241. .

 

 


Item 11. Enjoy.

 

In the larger picture, you and your family are creating a lifetime of memories through homeschooling. It is a joyful lifestyle that many feel quite privileged to enjoy.

 

You´ve probably heard by now - homeschooling can be a hoot. Many parents love spending all this time learning with their children. They delight in learning with their children and in watching the light bulb on inspiration flash on over their children´s heads. (Really! If you can´t see the light bulb, check your child´s eyes for sparkle when he tells you something he just discovered - that´s it!)

 

Most of the time. Most of the time. But then there are the OTHER days. You know its true - even the most angelic children whine, bicker, pester, yabber, scream, and aggravate. Yes, even mine did! Hoo boy, did they ever! Parents are sometimes withdrawn, cranky, or impatient.

 

Yes, I know, veteran homeschoolers, even authors of homeschooling books, rarely tell about these times, and do you know why? Because these are not the kind of memories we enjoy dragging out of the dark recesses of our minds to brag about. These are not often proud moments, friends, but they are a real part of the total homeschooling parcel.

 

As homeschooling parents who are with children for many hours a day, often without a break for days on end, we are especially susceptible to “parental desperation’ moments.

 

What to do? How can you regain a joyful learning environment when everyone is at one another´s throats? Some days it is easy to turn annoying behaviors into delightful lessons, but on other days, it may be all you can do to limp through the day without a blowout.

The Liberating World of Joyful Disruptions

You the parent can disrupt the child´s negative behavior, even when it is a battle you do not choose to use as a lesson. You´ll do this joyfully once you get the knack.

[J]ust think how powerful an effect you have on your child when you choose to interrupt her (annoying whining, pestering, poking, bugging, jabbering, screeching) activities with a joyful activity that you choose. Remember how the tears turned into giggles when you picked up your upset toddler and laughed and giggled with her?

 

A joyful disruption is a powerful way to redirect energy or activity that is undesirable, but for whatever reason, is not a battle you want to pick today. It is so powerful, in fact, that you may choose this strategy frequently. Often, these are the moments when Mom´s or Dad´s creativity kicks in and delightful family activities are spontaneously initiated.

 

No one will remember the day everyone bickered and all were in tears before breakfast over who-knows-what and even the oatmeal was lumpy. But won´t everyone smile at the memory of a candlelight breakfast of lumpy oatmeal served under the table?

 

Joyful disruptions are a satisfying and creative way to help children learn social and academic lessons, and the results can be astounding. Children learn without feeling wrong or ashamed. In addition to helping children learn and making life easier for parents, joyful disruptions also bring a precious side benefit: zany activities often make the most satisfying memories for all.

 

Disruptions to Try with Young Children

•   Be ridiculous or unpredictable; tuck a small child who is whiny and clingy and needing attention into the bib of your overalls while you finish your tasks; pause often to tickle and tease him while he giggles.

•   Trap your child with your legs while you finish your phone calls. Tickle her with your feet.

•   Haul your child around with you by your ankle. Just tell him to hop on your foot and go for a ride. Is your child too big? Have him “hook up’ to your belt loop, and follow you around while you do your tasks. The child´s task? Hang on. Your task? Talk wildly about the amazing growth on your foot or back that makes you limp so terribly, how you´ll probably need surgery, and alas! the pain and suffering. Then brace yourself for giggle fits.

•   Puff out your chest and sing in an off-key operatic voice: ‘I told you, I told you, I to-o-o-old you, not to tease the cat,´ picking up your child, marching, and singing together, adding verses and silly refrains. Fundamentals of Homeschooling, p. 190.

 

Disrupt misbehavior with joy when you can - you´ll be glad you did.

 

Now, dear friends, I see that you´ve found your way through Your Trusty Homeschool Emergency Kit - Absolutely Free! No Strings! As with any emergency kit, keep it handy on your virtual shelf, review the contents regularly, and do pull it out when you feel a panic attack coming on. With just a little support and confidence, you´ll be able to take on those tough spells as a challenge We think we have the basics covered in full in Fundamentals of Homeschooling.




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